Bullying- how to cope, from someone with experience.

Have you ever been bullied?

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ItzThatVixen

ItzThatVixen

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Hello, fellow mine crafters. My name is Vix, you may or may not have heard of me, or known me, but I've quit BL. I have thought recently, that this website is such a good way to get through to people, to spread a positive message, and that's what I want to do. So let's get into the point of this thread.

I have been bullied. Three times, each by different people. The latest time being the worst. I have experienced petty bullying, and harsh bullying, and I know how much it messes up your life.

I wanted to die. I thought about suicide quite a few times, but even though I never attempted it, that metaphorical scar is still there. To be truthful, I got bullied because I told people about my feelings. My two best friends had been cutting, and when I found out I got depressed. So I told who I thought was my "best friend" about it, and the mental torture began.

It was things like pushing me out of the friend group, calling me horrible words that I shall not repeat, talking about me behind my back and to my face, controlling me like I was a useless minion to them. I cried myself to sleep almost every night.

And soon enough, after maybe a month or two, I snapped. I poured out my heart to my mum, something I'd been dreading, as I'd put on such a happy appearance everywhere I went. I cracked jokes and cheered others up at school, even though on the inside I was being torn apart. My mum was so kind and listened readily, and told me that we had to tell someone about what was going on.

And we did. We told teachers at our school, and they sorted it out discreetly. I still remember my bullies getting pulled out of classes, and the knot in my stomach when they sneered at me. But I survived.

If you are getting bullied at the moment, and I know you've heard it a thousand times before but I'm going to say it again, TELL SOMEONE. It doesn't matter who, just someone. You need to get it off your chest, and after that things will get easier. I'm not saying it'll be like a walk in the park, but it will be better than before.

You are not alone, and you are not worthless. People love you very much, even if you don't realise it. And I want you to know that. You're beautiful.

Also, if you are bullying someone, I hope you realise the effect it has. And I hope you stop.

I hope everyone will realise that the saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt" is the opposite of truth. Words do hurt, and the impact of them will last just as long as a physical scar.

You can get through bullying, and I wish my experience has proved that. If you need to talk to anyone, you can talk to me, I will listen and give any needed advice. I want to help you, and I'm sure everyone else on this website does too.

You are loved, very, very much.

P.s. Those videos up there are songs that helped me HUGELY during the period of bullying, find music that helps you to think "I can do this", try not to choose depressing songs. Although, depressing songs are good at helping you feel not alone in your thoughts, they can become unhealthy to listen to and turn your mood for the worst.
 
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That was a very nice message you sent to everyone here on the BrokenLens Community. I used to get bullied when I was in elementary school because how much of a nerd I was. I really hated it and I would also tell my mom after I cried one day at school. Since I'm Asian, a lot of people make fun of me because of stereotypes, even my friends. Even my brother always gets bullied even more than me, and seeing him in pain just built up anger for me against bullies. No one bullies me anymore in middle school (because I'm an introvert), but my brother always gets bullied in school, and I feel a great pain watching him go through the day, not telling my mom about the situation.
Anyways, you don't know me but thank you for writing this thread. It really means something to me, and I almost cried when I wrote this, because of the pain I used to have earlier. Thank you for writing such a beautiful thread.
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Hello, fellow mine crafters. My name is Vix, you may or may not have heard of me, or known me, but I've quit BL. I have thought recently, that this website is such a good way to get through to people, to spread a positive message, and that's what I want to do. So let's get into the point of this thread.

I have been bullied. Three times, each by different people. The latest time being the worst. I have experienced petty bullying, and harsh bullying, and I know how much it messes up your life.

I wanted to die. I thought about suicide quite a few times, but even though I never attempted it, that metaphorical scar is still there. To be truthful, I got bullied because I told people about my feelings. My two best friends had been cutting, and when I found out I got depressed. So I told who I thought was my "best friend" about it, and the mental torture began.

It was things like pushing me out of the friend group, calling me horrible words that I shall not repeat, talking about me behind my back and to my face, controlling me like I was a useless minion to them. I cried myself to sleep almost every night.

And soon enough, after maybe a month or two, I snapped. I poured out my heart to my mum, something I'd been dreading, as I'd put on such a happy appearance everywhere I went. I cracked jokes and cheered others up at school, even though on the inside I was being torn apart. My mum was so kind and listened readily, and told me that we had to tell someone about what was going on.

And we did. We told teachers at our school, and they sorted it out discreetly. I still remember my bullies getting pulled out of classes, and the knot in my stomach when they sneered at me. But I survived.

If you are getting bullied at the moment, and I know you've heard it a thousand times before but I'm going to say it again, TELL SOMEONE. It doesn't matter who, just someone. You need to get it off your chest, and after that things will get easier. I'm not saying it'll be like a walk in the park, but it will be better than before.

You are not alone, and you are not worthless. People love you very much, even if you don't realise it. And I want you to know that. You're beautiful.

Also, if you are bullying someone, I hope you realise the effect it has. And I hope you stop.

I hope everyone will realise that the saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt" is the opposite of truth. Words do hurt, and the impact of them will last just as long as a physical scar.

You can get through bullying, and I wish my experience has proved that. If you need to talk to anyone, you can talk to me, I will listen and give any needed advice. I want to help you, and I'm sure everyone else on this website does too.

You are loved, very, very much.
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That's a positive message ^^
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im crying. I got bullied in my old primary school for doing nothing, so did my little sister. We moved primary schools and we were much happier but after this week im going to highschool, but im stronger and the people in my classes are nice so im not scared. But my sister was crying because I wouldn't be there to protect her, i was always the one who sorted out her fights because she's so fragile, one mean word and she cracks. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. <3
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That was an amazing paragraph to read

I was bullied alot aswell, first it was just little things that I dont want to repeat...but then it got worse and worse and worse until it got to the point where everywhere I walked at school I would get called something, pushed or shoved. It got so bad that I became terrified of going to school I would leave late so I would get there late because I would be bullied on the way to school too, I was too scared to go anywhere alone at school. Then there were the days where people would threaten me, tell me to **** myself and to drown myself and to just get rid of myself because no one liked me or wanted me, I was told that if I didnt **** myself then they would **** me for themselves and I did consider it..I still have physical scars from where the times got really bad and I believed them I had no friends apart from the little group of really close friends...my ** broke up with me because *** decided that I wasnt good enough for ***. I always put on a smile though...I got really good at pretending. I have not been diagnosed with depression but I can be really depressing and depressed....there have been days where I just snap and decide this is my last day on earth I have to say goodbye to everyone...but then my best friend in the entire of the MC community who I love so so so much comes and tells me everything is alright and that I should just hold on because he doesnt want to lose me and that so many people would be sad over my death and that I have so much to live for he is the whole reason I am alive anymore just knowning he is always going to be there for me is just so helpful for me and we help each other....I hate my life to be honest and I dont just have physical scars I have mental..
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Yes everyone has been bullied
and you just gotta get through it
look at the big picture
that being bullied is nothing compared what you can do with the rest of your life
don't let it get to you
Be strong
I don't care if you say you can't be strong
Because you can be strong
don't let it get to you
Don't let it hurt you in the heart
Because if you do
It's going to tear you apart
you get through it
No matter how hard it is
Or if they hit you push you
You get back up
And you get through it
Because if you do
That means you have a chance to get passed it
And wake up and see that there's a whole life you have
No matter how bad your past was
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Such a beautiful thread...

I've been bullied quite a bit. Just going into high school made it 2x worse... even a user on here (Won't say who because they have people watching me.) has bullied me. And damn did that leave scars. Almost made me take the easy way out of that hell. But I'm still here (thankfully for some, others wish for it)

But this was a great thread. Some people normally think if they say nothing it'll be okay in the end, which is how I thought. But it really is better to talk about things. You get other opinions and options on what to do. I've learned even talking can save a life.

For someone depressed or feeling alone, this is perfect for them to read. This would probably bring the community together just to show people aren't alone in what they are going through. It's a very positive thread and I appreciate you spending your time to write it ^^
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I haven't been "bullied", but I HAVE gotten into arguements with people irl and online. But usually, we make up the next day. I don't talk much in real life so bullying isn't really a problem. I have dealt with someone (in another game) who has been bullied and also had suicidal thoughts. I helped them but that game had shetty servers so I never saw them again. Hopefully they are ok. I have some comebacks in case I do get bullied:
Bully: "Ur ugly!" Me: Did you know that I am a mirror?
Bully: "kys blue!!!" Me: Does not compute. Please try again later.
Bully: "Stupid!" Me: *ignores*
Bully: "bloowillot is a stulid liar!!!1!" Me: Sorry, but the user "bloowillot" is either offline, or does not exist. Please, try again later.
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I haven't been bullied before... actually i've never seen anyone getting bullied in my school batch... but this is quite similar to confronting your fears... right now i've got stage fright, anxiety and was traumatized from an experience wherein I was chosen to say and act the poem i've made in front of a lot of people and I mean a lot of people (about 200 I think) including my so-called "friends" and classmates, there were some people taking videos too... I was still so much confident that time and thought I was doing great in every aspect but.... after the poem recital and during the award ceremony(where they give out certificates to winners) I didn't won anything not even 5th place.. this is the part where I felt all my friends and classmates where laughing(inside) at me and talked behind my back... it was so embarrassing, I was scared and I just wanted to run away... after that whenever there was a class presentation, individually or grouped I would always make mistakes, I would always stutter, I would always mispronounce words, I would always feel nervous, I would always ruin everything up and I would always remember that embarrassment I felt that time... it is really hard becuase no one would ever understand, I just kept going without a path, I would always think that I just have to finish it and that's all... my classmates right now thinks of me of someone with outstanding confidence especially in front of the class... but in actuality it is all acting... i've learned to act someone else entirely.... but slowly and surely i've been trying to regain the confidence I had and trying to know me as me... as a person.

Gosh this was so long .3. Sorry if this had just little to do with bullying, I just wanted to share my experience and for those who had similar experience as mine.. YOU CAN DO THIS... STAND UP FOR YOURSELVES, LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES :) SCHOOL ISN'T ABOUT SHOWING OFF AND HAVING THE BEST SCORES, SCHOOL IS ABOUT LEARNING YOUR CAPABILITIES AND WEAKNESSES TO USE IT TO YOUR ADVANTAGES AND PREPARING YOU FOR YOUR FUTURE....thank you :P
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BenjyPlayzYT said:
That was a very nice message you sent to everyone here on the BrokenLens Community. I used to get bullied when I was in elementary school because how much of a nerd I was. I really hated it and I would also tell my mom after I cried one day at school. Since I'm Asian, a lot of people make fun of me because of stereotypes, even my friends. Even my brother always gets bullied even more than me, and seeing him in pain just built up anger for me against bullies. No one bullies me anymore in middle school (because I'm an introvert), but my brother always gets bullied in school, and I feel a great pain watching him go through the day, not telling my mom about the situation.
Anyways, you don't know me but thank you for writing this thread. It really means something to me, and I almost cried when I wrote this, because of the pain I used to have earlier. Thank you for writing such a beautiful thread.
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People who make fun of stereotypes are so unoriginal it's painful. As I watch an Asian YouTuber (NigaHiga) who has also been through that experience, I have an idea of what you've been through. Maybe you and your brother could watch his "draw my life" video? Also, I know what it feels like watching younger siblings getting bullied. It's so awful, and I'm sorry that you've had/ are having to go through that.

I'm so happy that this means something to you. I wanted to help people and having you comment has helped me too. So thank you :)
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ItzThatVixen said:
People who make fun of stereotypes are so unoriginal it's painful. As I watch an Asian YouTuber (NigaHiga) who has also been through that experience, I have an idea of what you've been through. Maybe you and your brother could watch his "draw my life" video? Also, I know what it feels like watching younger siblings getting bullied. It's so awful, and I'm sorry that you've had/ are having to go through that.

I'm so happy that this means something to you. I wanted to help people and having you comment has helped me too. So thank you :)
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You're welcome :d
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x0EriBaka0x said:
im crying. I got bullied in my old primary school for doing nothing, so did my little sister. We moved primary schools and we were much happier but after this week im going to highschool, but im stronger and the people in my classes are nice so im not scared. But my sister was crying because I wouldn't be there to protect her, i was always the one who sorted out her fights because she's so fragile, one mean word and she cracks. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. <3
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Are you ok? I've found that a lot of the time bully victims got bullied for doing nothing. Those people who bullied you were cowards, who were insecure themselves so make fun of others to make themselves feel better.

Highschool can be scary, but good at the same time. I'm glad you're stronger and people are nice, just stick with the nice people and nothing can go wrong :)

I Wish I had advice for you and your sister, but I do know what it feels like to stand up for a younger sibling. Hopefully, she will be forced, and I know it's horrible, to become more independent, and have more experience herself.

It's ok, I just wanted others to feel that they are NOT alone, and thank you for sharing your experience, it means a lot to me as I'm sure it does to the others reading this thread.
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ItzThatVixen said:
Are you ok? I've found that a lot of the time bully victims got bullied for doing nothing. Those people who bullied you were cowards, who were insecure themselves so make fun of others to make themselves feel better.

Highschool can be scary, but good at the same time. I'm glad you're stronger and people are nice, just stick with the nice people and nothing can go wrong :)

I Wish I had advice for you and your sister, but I do know what it feels like to stand up for a younger sibling. Hopefully, she will be forced, and I know it's horrible, to become more independent, and have more experience herself.

It's ok, I just wanted others to feel that they are NOT alone, and thank you for sharing your experience, it means a lot to me as I'm sure it does to the others reading this thread.
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yeah im ok :) my sister is a slow developer so she doesn't handle things very well thats mainly why im scared to leave her
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I'm so sorry you had to go through that, Vix. Bullying sucks, but it's basically inevitable. I think everyone experiences bullying of some kind, no matter their size, appearance, colour or ethnicity.

But, thank you for making this thread. It assures people there is hope and with strength, the bullying will stop.

I remember I used to get bullied all the time when I was younger. I was shy and really sensitive back then, so I plain out cried. But there was this particular girl I met. She always tried tripping me, she spat insults at me, pulled my hair, ect. The teachers did absolutely nothing. I did nothing wrong, but apparently I was an easy target.

Anyway, I remember I was in this after school care thing (where you go when your parents are working late.) and this girl's sister (her sister was like 18 and I was about 10.) she literally walked through the gates and threatened me!

Just imagine you're a smol child (xD) and this tall, weird stranger comes up to you and starts screaming at you. I don't remember what she said, but I ended up crying and screaming when I told my Mum.

But the story hasn't ended yet.
I got so sick and tired of the bullying, that I started bullying others. I was a really quiet child, but suddenly I tried hurting anyone I could. It was like "get them before they get me and I won't get hurt". I stopped after a while when I had realised I was only doing that to deal with my own pain, but I was causing others pain. My mind was an utter mess.

Bullying was like a disease. Everyone caught it and started doing it to each other.

I know I was only 10, but that memory is still engraved into my head.

The bullying has stopped, but I'll get occasional insults (who doesn't?), but it's much better now.

Everyone's really nice to each other (and we ignore all the bad apples).

The key is to ignore the negativity and eventually it'll just bounce off you.

:)
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XAddy~SenpaiX said:
That was an amazing paragraph to read

I was bullied alot aswell, first it was just little things that I dont want to repeat...but then it got worse and worse and worse until it got to the point where everywhere I walked at school I would get called something, pushed or shoved. It got so bad that I became terrified of going to school I would leave late so I would get there late because I would be bullied on the way to school too, I was too scared to go anywhere alone at school. Then there were the days where people would threaten me, tell me to **** myself and to drown myself and to just get rid of myself because no one liked me or wanted me, I was told that if I didnt **** myself then they would **** me for themselves and I did consider it..I still have physical scars from where the times got really bad and I believed them I had no friends apart from the little group of really close friends...my ** broke up with me because *** decided that I wasnt good enough for ***. I always put on a smile though...I got really good at pretending. I have not been diagnosed with depression but I can be really depressing and depressed....there have been days where I just snap and decide this is my last day on earth I have to say goodbye to everyone...but then my best friend in the entire of the MC community who I love so so so much comes and tells me everything is alright and that I should just hold on because he doesnt want to lose me and that so many people would be sad over my death and that I have so much to live for he is the whole reason I am alive anymore just knowning he is always going to be there for me is just so helpful for me and we help each other....I hate my life to be honest and I dont just have physical scars I have mental..
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That's so awful, people are really cruel. I feel like a lot of people put up a pretence when getting bullied, I know I did. And I know what you mean about not being diagnosed with depression yet feeling depressed, it happens to me too. Whoever on here is helping you, they are amazing. We all need a friend like that.

You can get through this rough patch. <3
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ItzThatVixen said:
That's so awful, people are really cruel. I feel like a lot of people put up a pretence when getting bullied, I know I did. And I know what you mean about not being diagnosed with depression yet feeling depressed, it happens to me too. Whoever on here is helping you, they are amazing. We all need a friend like that.

You can get through this rough patch. <3
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Thank you :) <3
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ItzThatVixen said:





Hello, fellow mine crafters. My name is Vix, you may or may not have heard of me, or known me, but I've quit BL. I have thought recently, that this website is such a good way to get through to people, to spread a positive message, and that's what I want to do. So let's get into the point of this thread.

I have been bullied. Three times, each by different people. The latest time being the worst. I have experienced petty bullying, and harsh bullying, and I know how much it messes up your life.

I wanted to die. I thought about suicide quite a few times, but even though I never attempted it, that metaphorical scar is still there. To be truthful, I got bullied because I told people about my feelings. My two best friends had been cutting, and when I found out I got depressed. So I told who I thought was my "best friend" about it, and the mental torture began.

It was things like pushing me out of the friend group, calling me horrible words that I shall not repeat, talking about me behind my back and to my face, controlling me like I was a useless minion to them. I cried myself to sleep almost every night.

And soon enough, after maybe a month or two, I snapped. I poured out my heart to my mum, something I'd been dreading, as I'd put on such a happy appearance everywhere I went. I cracked jokes and cheered others up at school, even though on the inside I was being torn apart. My mum was so kind and listened readily, and told me that we had to tell someone about what was going on.

And we did. We told teachers at our school, and they sorted it out discreetly. I still remember my bullies getting pulled out of classes, and the knot in my stomach when they sneered at me. But I survived.

If you are getting bullied at the moment, and I know you've heard it a thousand times before but I'm going to say it again, TELL SOMEONE. It doesn't matter who, just someone. You need to get it off your chest, and after that things will get easier. I'm not saying it'll be like a walk in the park, but it will be better than before.

You are not alone, and you are not worthless. People love you very much, even if you don't realise it. And I want you to know that. You're beautiful.

Also, if you are bullying someone, I hope you realise the effect it has. And I hope you stop.

I hope everyone will realise that the saying "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt" is the opposite of truth. Words do hurt, and the impact of them will last just as long as a physical scar.

You can get through bullying, and I wish my experience has proved that. If you need to talk to anyone, you can talk to me, I will listen and give any needed advice. I want to help you, and I'm sure everyone else on this website does too.

You are loved, very, very much.

P.s. Those videos up there are songs that helped me HUGELY during the period of bullying, find music that helps you to think "I can do this", try not to choose depressing songs. Although, depressing songs are good at helping you feel not alone in your thoughts, they can become unhealthy to listen to and turn your mood for the worst.
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I'm bullied all the time..
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