Any Advice For A Sudden Breakup?

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Hey all, I'm kinda looking for some general tips or advice on the issue mentioned above. Would appreciate any input the community can provide. To put this into context, my partner of 2 years basically broke up with me out of the blue last week. I want to win her back as I personally believe that we were doing well together apart from the usual disagreements from time to time.

Two weeks before the break up, we were still planning a holiday together to celebrate our anniversary and were both extremely excited to be traveling together. I don't know how that could have flipped in a week to wanting a break and claiming that she doesn't love me anymore. Right now, she's still replying to my messages but I don't want to push my boundaries because she's someone that shuts off from others really easily so I thought I'd ask for some advice on what to do and why you think she acted this way?

Ps: I did ask her why she felt like she didn't love me, and she couldn't seem to give me an answer. I don't think it was another guy and it didn't feel like she completely stopped loving me?
 
Well this ain’t a dating website even though it’s off-topic I don’t think this is appropriate
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No advice from Kristina


Just search google :/ （╯°□°）╯︵(\ .o.)\
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Sorry about that bro. Maybe just realise that if they broke up with you then you weren’t meant for eachother, if someone is truely worth it they will love you for who you are and love you unconditionally, not break up with you. I know it seems horrible at first but the sooner you weren’t meant for eachother you can move on and maybe find someone special.
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Uhhhh

GET UP AND MOVE ON
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Well considering she's someone who will shut anyone out easily, I think you're doing the right thing not to push it. Try to avoid asking her why she broke up, at least for now. Instead try slowly regaining what you had, or at least see if she'll be your friend (I say this because usually after a breakup, people become like instant enemies or something). Maybe ask how she is time to time, ask her what she's up to. Try to get involved in her life - but not too much, she might see that as an invasion of privacy. When you think she won't immediately shut you out when you ask, ask about this breakup. Ask her why.

Yes, I know this method may take some time but, relationships are complex, and will always take time.
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You should ask why for. Maybe it's not you, it's her. Maybe she needs help. Try asking her why, but don't get annoyed and don't expect an answer first try.
If you truly love her, just try to speak about the reason.
Don't get mad. Stay calm at all tims, and gently listen.
If she won't tell you anything after a couple of tries, maybe it's not worth it.
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For a relationship to work, there needs to be balance. An imbalance can cause your relationship to lose touch with both of you, see things that aren't there, and eventually fall apart. That is to say, if one of you is falling apart, your relationship will as well. To find balance, you must understand your feelings. To understand your feelings, you must see them clearly without running from them.

Frequent arguments is a sign of a toxic relationship, that can be subjective though depending to the intensity of your problems and arguments but you get the point. If you think your relationship is not working, then you are incompatible with each other and she did the right decision.

Cut contact, not immediately. It's not necessary to remain as friends but don't be enemies. Let go of the fantasy and look forward, the past is over and gone. A wound will never heal if you keep playing with it, it will just became worse. It's okay to feel bad, to cry, let it out. You have feelings also.

If you are seeking for an answer about your break-up, ask her one last time and try at the right moment. If she doesn't, don't force her. That's all I got to say, man. If you want to know, ask her. If she doesn't, then move on already. It will be alright, eventually.

(This is probably a relatable situation.)
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Sometimes, you're just not meant to be.
First, you want to ask her why she did it. Ask her why, so you can find some closure and move on.
But for being in a relationship of two years... The process of moving on can be long and difficult. You might want to always shut people out, and don't want to talk to them.
But there's people who care about you, and want to be there for you, so they can help you along the way.

You guys sometimes argue. This is normal. People in relationships argue. But if you seem that you been arguing over the stupidest reasons, they it's likely this is a reason why she broke up with you. Relationships are meant to have trust and understanding.

Or maybe... She has troubles in real life. Most people that have issues or troubles don't want other people to experience the same thing. Maybe if there's something troubling her, ask about it, and help her. But if she shuts you out, give her some time alone.

But most importantly, give her time to heal. She must also be regretting her decision or heartbroken. It's not easy to just break up with someone. Give her time.

AND take some time to yourself. Time to calm down, and cool off.
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lots od advice
my advice
BOi DoNt TrY tO GeT bAcK wIth HEr
ShE gOnNA brEaK Yo HeARt AgaIn
the quote “if you love someone let them go, and if its true theyll come back” IS TOTAL BS THEY WOULDNT LET GO IN THE FIRST PLACE DENN
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its normal. move on. you have a lot more years to go, its not the end of it. you'll eventually won't care. if she doesn't see the value in you then she isn't worth your time.
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Avicii said:
You should ask why for. Maybe it's not you, it's her. Maybe she needs help. Try asking her why, but don't get annoyed and don't expect an answer first try.
If you truly love her, just try to speak about the reason.
Don't get mad. Stay calm at all tims, and gently listen.
If she won't tell you anything after a couple of tries, maybe it's not worth it.
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Thank you. I did end up asking her. It was too much for me to handle. And low and behold she shut me off. All I got was, "I don't know why. I just stopped feeling the same about you." And then she stopped replying.

I don't think she is worth it anymore. I still sometimes want her back. So, I've decided to stay away for one month and get my head clear. I read an article that suggested this. (https://getyourexbackpermanently.com/win-your-ex-girlfriend-back/ )

I'll just focus on myself right now. It sucks so bad that a relationship that I thought was pretty good ended sup abruptly. But if she is capable of doing this, I don't think I should spend more energy on her. It's just so hard though.
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Is it sort of weird that a 27 year old is asking us on a minecraft cite
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FinePhantomEJ said:
Is it sort of weird that a 27 year old is asking us on a minecraft cite
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Not really....even though he’s 27 he can still enjoy the game like the rest of us. If he can’t get advice in real life then it’s okay for him to ask us even if we are younger.
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