How To Fix A BrokenHeart?

As people have already said, do your best to forget about him. Don't hold on to any memories of him. If there's something that keeps reminding you of him, get rid of it (okay, except if you really need that thing, like, Idk, your phone? You know what I mean xD). Leave any conversations with him. Do anything to take your mind off him, like drawing, listening to music, watching the TV, really anything to make yourself busy. If you stop thinking about him, you'll probably find that after a while, you don't miss him. Also, talking to people - even more than you already do - might help to stop you missing him or feeling lonely.

I really hope you feel better soon, Pixie. I know you can do it. We're all here for you <3
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Pixie & Phoenix said:
I just need a bit of help.
I hope this thread doesn't start drama or anything, but I'm really 'heartbroken'.
I'd rather my close friends answer this, because they actually know what happened.
And I swear to the friggin chicken nugget lord if Spike or someone else goes: "I'm sorry for the inconvenience, but I don't know! Have a good day! :D" Then I swear to GOD--

Anyway, just need a tiny bit of help getting over someone.

@XxLiazaliaxX <- I feel like she'd be the best at answering this, because she knows how it feels (No offence if you see this, Queen Lia).

Love you all. xoxo.
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Thanks? XD So tempted to answer this :D Alright, this is only from personal experience and I know nothing about your personal situation so it might not help :p (I will only tell you about my personal experience if I want you to identify with me or see how horrible a mess you can make - I'm sorry if it seems like I'm putting the attention on myself)

1) Don't go on social media sites that he has an account on (for a while)

^ If you do, you will probably experience the urge to talk to him or check back on his photos/messages. This is bad. In this moment of desperation, you might not be thinking straight and either end up texting him something you'll regret or end up daydreaming about him for the rest of the afternoon (both of these have happened to me before: the first scenario ended up with me texting him, "Are you sure you didn't like me?" - See? I wasn't thinking straight and seemed desperate and clingy - and the second was when I was idly scrolling through the newsfeed on Facebook and saw a picture he was tagged in and it was cute af so it felt like I was crushing on him all over again - I daydreamed about him the whole afternoon and didn't do my homework.)

Do you want this to happen to you? ^ No? Then follow my advice. I'm not saying unfriend him, block him and log off in a defeated heap but just avoid going online for a few days - resist temptation!

2) Surround yourself with people

Apparently, it's been scientifically proven (and Lia approved XD) that social support helps you get over someone quicker. This is a good opportunity to focus on improving, restoring or making social relationships. I know, it's hard as hell to surround yourself with others during heartbreak but please try. Even if you can't properly focus on what they're saying, even if you couldn't care less about being happy, you have to try and show this guy that you won't let them get you down. It could be irl or online but no matter what, find those people that you like spending time with. If you're on forums, I suggest having a conversation with your oldest friends or the newest members - you will end up talking about random shiz and you might just end up enjoying yourself. Irl, try having more family moments - watch movies with them, connect with them on Minecraft, go for a walk. Or, if you're feeling daring, try talking to the people you have seen perform acts of kindness in school (e.g offering you to join their group). Just talk about something you have in common even if it's just about school teachers. You will feel a lot better - social interaction isn't easy so this will build up your self-confidence. (I have practiced this and made acquaintance with people I would never have considered talking to - I made approx. 1-8 new acquaintances). Over time, you'll definitely feel happier.

3) Adopt new perspectives on your memories with them

This is my own technique. What I do is listen to a variety of different songs about heartbreak and love, ranging from, "Angel With A Shotgun" by The Cab to "My Immortal" by Evanescence to "Stitches" by Shawn Mendes. I then depict the meaning of the lyrics and apply it to a memory I've had with my significant other. This is the laziest way to get over someone because all it does is require daydreaming and listening to music XD. It worked for me so shushhhh.

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Here are some examples:
A scenario with significant other - Every time I would stare at him, he would stare back. He sometimes initiates the staring but then claims he doesn't like me.

Songs I listened to randomly:

"Attention" by Charlie Puth - 'You just want attention, you don't want my heart' > Suggests: He doesn't actually like me. He just likes the attention I give him.

"Touch" by Little Mix - 'Just a touch of your love is enough to take control over my whole body' > Suggests: Omigoshhh, that's so trueeeee XD But, do they feel the same way? I think of them so much but do they think about me at all?

"Heartbeat" by Marcus and Martinus - 'I took it for granted that you loved me the same' > Suggests: He might've never actually liked me and what's happened doesn't mean anything. He could've just been curious.

"Treat You Better" by Shawn Mendes - 'I won't lie to you. I know he's just not right for you' > Suggests: All my friends seem to act like this all the time. How much truth is in that? Does he really treat me right?

I soon saw the truth in so many different ways that I just began to not see that person romantically anymore.

This is a really weird method and I doubt anyone else has tried this XD But if you do try it, I guarantee that each song will hold a line that'll help and captivate you. Don't try and spot that line, let it seek YOU out.

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I hoped this helped even a little. I'll just end it here for now because danggggg, that is so much writing. Best of luck, Pixie <3

P.S This jerkface sounds like he doesn't deserve you.
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XxLiazaliaxX said:
Thanks? XD So tempted to answer this :D Alright, this is only from personal experience and I know nothing about your personal situation so it might not help :p (I will only tell you about my personal experience if I want you to identify with me or see how horrible a mess you can make - I'm sorry if it seems like I'm putting the attention on myself)

1) Don't go on social media sites that he has an account on (for a while)

^ If you do, you will probably experience the urge to talk to him or check back on his photos/messages. This is bad. In this moment of desperation, you might not be thinking straight and either end up texting him something you'll regret or end up daydreaming about him for the rest of the afternoon (both of these have happened to me before: the first scenario ended up with me texting him, "Are you sure you didn't like me?" - See? I wasn't thinking straight and seemed desperate and clingy - and the second was when I was idly scrolling through the newsfeed on Facebook and saw a picture he was tagged in and it was cute af so it felt like I was crushing on him all over again - I daydreamed about him the whole afternoon and didn't do my homework.)

Do you want this to happen to you? ^ No? Then follow my advice. I'm not saying unfriend him, block him and log off in a defeated heap but just avoid going online for a few days - resist temptation!

2) Surround yourself with people

Apparently, it's been scientifically proven (and Lia approved XD) that social support helps you get over someone quicker. This is a good opportunity to focus on improving, restoring or making social relationships. I know, it's hard as hell to surround yourself with others during heartbreak but please try. Even if you can't properly focus on what they're saying, even if you couldn't care less about being happy, you have to try and show this guy that you won't let them get you down. It could be irl or online but no matter what, find those people that you like spending time with. If you're on forums, I suggest having a conversation with your oldest friends or the newest members - you will end up talking about random shiz and you might just end up enjoying yourself. Irl, try having more family moments - watch movies with them, connect with them on Minecraft, go for a walk. Or, if you're feeling daring, try talking to the people you have seen perform acts of kindness in school (e.g offering you to join their group). Just talk about something you have in common even if it's just about school teachers. You will feel a lot better - social interaction isn't easy so this will build up your self-confidence. (I have practiced this and made acquaintance with people I would never have considered talking to - I made approx. 1-8 new acquaintances). Over time, you'll definitely feel happier.

3) Adopt new perspectives on your memories with them

This is my own technique. What I do is listen to a variety of different songs about heartbreak and love, ranging from, "Angel With A Shotgun" by The Cab to "My Immortal" by Evanescence to "Stitches" by Shawn Mendes. I then depict the meaning of the lyrics and apply it to a memory I've had with my significant other. This is the laziest way to get over someone because all it does is require daydreaming and listening to music XD. It worked for me so shushhhh.

------------------------------------
Here are some examples:
A scenario with significant other - Every time I would stare at him, he would stare back. He sometimes initiates the staring but then claims he doesn't like me.

Songs I listened to randomly:

"Attention" by Charlie Puth - 'You just want attention, you don't want my heart' > Suggests: He doesn't actually like me. He just likes the attention I give him.

"Touch" by Little Mix - 'Just a touch of your love is enough to take control over my whole body' > Suggests: Omigoshhh, that's so trueeeee XD But, do they feel the same way? I think of them so much but do they think about me at all?

"Heartbeat" by Marcus and Martinus - 'I took it for granted that you loved me the same' > Suggests: He might've never actually liked me and what's happened doesn't mean anything. He could've just been curious.

"Treat You Better" by Shawn Mendes - 'I won't lie to you. I know he's just not right for you' > Suggests: All my friends seem to act like this all the time. How much truth is in that? Does he really treat me right?

I soon saw the truth in so many different ways that I just began to not see that person romantically anymore.

This is a really weird method and I doubt anyone else has tried this XD But if you do try it, I guarantee that each song will hold a line that'll help and captivate you. Don't try and spot that line, let it seek YOU out.

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I hoped this helped even a little. I'll just end it here for now because danggggg, that is so much writing. Best of luck, Pixie <3

P.S This jerkface sounds like he doesn't deserve you.
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I think you would be surprised if you found out who it was. ._.
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XxLiazaliaxX said:
Thanks? XD So tempted to answer this :D Alright, this is only from personal experience and I know nothing about your personal situation so it might not help :p (I will only tell you about my personal experience if I want you to identify with me or see how horrible a mess you can make - I'm sorry if it seems like I'm putting the attention on myself)

1) Don't go on social media sites that he has an account on (for a while)

^ If you do, you will probably experience the urge to talk to him or check back on his photos/messages. This is bad. In this moment of desperation, you might not be thinking straight and either end up texting him something you'll regret or end up daydreaming about him for the rest of the afternoon (both of these have happened to me before: the first scenario ended up with me texting him, "Are you sure you didn't like me?" - See? I wasn't thinking straight and seemed desperate and clingy - and the second was when I was idly scrolling through the newsfeed on Facebook and saw a picture he was tagged in and it was cute af so it felt like I was crushing on him all over again - I daydreamed about him the whole afternoon and didn't do my homework.)

Do you want this to happen to you? ^ No? Then follow my advice. I'm not saying unfriend him, block him and log off in a defeated heap but just avoid going online for a few days - resist temptation!

2) Surround yourself with people

Apparently, it's been scientifically proven (and Lia approved XD) that social support helps you get over someone quicker. This is a good opportunity to focus on improving, restoring or making social relationships. I know, it's hard as hell to surround yourself with others during heartbreak but please try. Even if you can't properly focus on what they're saying, even if you couldn't care less about being happy, you have to try and show this guy that you won't let them get you down. It could be irl or online but no matter what, find those people that you like spending time with. If you're on forums, I suggest having a conversation with your oldest friends or the newest members - you will end up talking about random shiz and you might just end up enjoying yourself. Irl, try having more family moments - watch movies with them, connect with them on Minecraft, go for a walk. Or, if you're feeling daring, try talking to the people you have seen perform acts of kindness in school (e.g offering you to join their group). Just talk about something you have in common even if it's just about school teachers. You will feel a lot better - social interaction isn't easy so this will build up your self-confidence. (I have practiced this and made acquaintance with people I would never have considered talking to - I made approx. 1-8 new acquaintances). Over time, you'll definitely feel happier.

3) Adopt new perspectives on your memories with them

This is my own technique. What I do is listen to a variety of different songs about heartbreak and love, ranging from, "Angel With A Shotgun" by The Cab to "My Immortal" by Evanescence to "Stitches" by Shawn Mendes. I then depict the meaning of the lyrics and apply it to a memory I've had with my significant other. This is the laziest way to get over someone because all it does is require daydreaming and listening to music XD. It worked for me so shushhhh.

------------------------------------
Here are some examples:
A scenario with significant other - Every time I would stare at him, he would stare back. He sometimes initiates the staring but then claims he doesn't like me.

Songs I listened to randomly:

"Attention" by Charlie Puth - 'You just want attention, you don't want my heart' > Suggests: He doesn't actually like me. He just likes the attention I give him.

"Touch" by Little Mix - 'Just a touch of your love is enough to take control over my whole body' > Suggests: Omigoshhh, that's so trueeeee XD But, do they feel the same way? I think of them so much but do they think about me at all?

"Heartbeat" by Marcus and Martinus - 'I took it for granted that you loved me the same' > Suggests: He might've never actually liked me and what's happened doesn't mean anything. He could've just been curious.

"Treat You Better" by Shawn Mendes - 'I won't lie to you. I know he's just not right for you' > Suggests: All my friends seem to act like this all the time. How much truth is in that? Does he really treat me right?

I soon saw the truth in so many different ways that I just began to not see that person romantically anymore.

This is a really weird method and I doubt anyone else has tried this XD But if you do try it, I guarantee that each song will hold a line that'll help and captivate you. Don't try and spot that line, let it seek YOU out.

----
I hoped this helped even a little. I'll just end it here for now because danggggg, that is so much writing. Best of luck, Pixie <3

P.S This jerkface sounds like he doesn't deserve you.
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OMGGGG Thank you soooo muchhhhh ;-;
I've reread this over and over again xD. This really helps. Thank you so much. I really am grateful. I don't know what to say. I love you sooo much Lia <33
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Slowly, I'm breaking more into the angry phase than the broken-hearted one (is that bad? XDD). But oh well.

This is just some in-depth background of what happened.

Also, if you guys didn't realise, this guy who hurt me was Wolfie. His name doesn't deserve to be protected. After what he's done. First to Razzle (an 11 year old, and he messed with her feelings!) and now to me. And if he somehow finds this thread and comments something snarky (since he has nothing else to do with his life), just ignore him. Don't attack him lmao xD. He doesn't deserve the kind of pain he caused others. This thread isn't about him. It's about me. And how much I need all of you guys, my amazing, gorgeous friends to help me with this.

You may think it's stupid. Me obsessing and hurting over a stupid guy I met online? I thought it was dumb too. But he lead me into this belief that someone actually liked me. My flaws. My everything. (I had been going through something bad around the period of time I had met him). He was like my saviour. Until his true colours shone. How would you feel if someone tricked you into thinking you felt loved, accepted, for once? Pretty s♥♥♥, I'm guessing.

I was basically blinded. Only when I left, I put all the peices together and really realised what he had done. I woke up in sweats and was close to have a panic attack. That's how much he messed with me. Messed with my mind. Like another guy I had dated in real life previous (that doesn't matter though).

(I just have a feeling he's going to somehow find this thread and contradict everything I'm saying xD, but if he does, that just proves how much of a 'man' he really is.)

All of my beautiful, amazing friends, Lia, Sara, Kendra, Lauren, Shielo, Vix, everyone. Please don't fall into the trap I fell into. A boy basically controlled my life. Don't be blinded by love. It may seem good at the time, but you'll end up feeling terrible afterwards. Heartbroken. Angry at yourself.

You guys are helping me so much and even typing this is making me feel relieved. It feels like I'm facing the problem, head on.

Also if you need anyone to talk to, I'm always here, like how you've been here for me.

You are all utterly amazing.

- Pixie.
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SaraLanceCanary said:
As people have already said, do your best to forget about him. Don't hold on to any memories of him. If there's something that keeps reminding you of him, get rid of it (okay, except if you really need that thing, like, Idk, your phone? You know what I mean xD). Leave any conversations with him. Do anything to take your mind off him, like drawing, listening to music, watching the TV, really anything to make yourself busy. If you stop thinking about him, you'll probably find that after a while, you don't miss him. Also, talking to people - even more than you already do - might help to stop you missing him or feeling lonely.

I really hope you feel better soon, Pixie. I know you can do it. We're all here for you <3
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I'm deleting all trace of him. Thank you so much, Sara Bear. Thank youuuuuu. Again, I don't know what to say. I'm grateful. I love you so much.
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